While I do enjoy one of Drake’s latest hits, “Child’s Play,” I do have a bone to pick with him about one of his lyrics. “Married in our 20s, now where’s the fun in that?” Sure, partying and getting drunk and fucking bitches is all fun and games– until you’re waking up in your bed, all alone with itchy balls. (Sorry, not sorry.)
I got married when I was 22 and my fiance was 21. Yeah, we did it early, and I can proudly say that after 3 years of marriage (together a total of 8 years), I don’t regret it one second. Being married in your 20s is awesome. Here’s why.
I met Garrett when I was 17. Yeah. Back then, I was emo as shit, my hair was bone-straight and swooped over my eyes, and I wouldn’t be caught dead without my studded belt and skinny jeans.
While many of those things haven’t changed, many things have changed in both of our mentalities, styles, and mindsets. We met each other at a weird time in our lives, and since then, we have both molded each other and influenced each other for the better. And because we met when we were so young, we were able to learn things and grow into the– mature?– adults that we are now.
My husband has seen me at my earliest, and possibly my worst. We loved each other through those weird, awkward phases. And now, we get to help each other transform into successful adults.
Doing 20-Something Activities with Your Best Friend
Being married in your 20s is not boring in the least– as long as you marry your best friend. Garrett and I enjoy each other’s company. Neither of us complain about being married, or else we wouldn’t have signed the papers and said, “I do.”
We still do the things 20-somethings do. We drink together. We go to parties. We go on dates. We have fun together. If you think the idea of being married is boring, or it would suck to be tied down, maybe you just haven’t met the ideal life best friend. No one can force you to get married if you don’t want to. But once you meet that person, hopefully, you get the feeling that you want them to be around all the time.
Keeping Up With the Kids
Oh yeah, we have a kid, too. And being young parents is an awesome thing when you do it right. Because we’re so young, we are more energetic and fun parents, unlike our 30-something counterparts, who get out of breath from chasing their child around the playground.
Being married and young allows you to not haveto fight against your biological clock that is almost dried out. More on this later, though.
Comfort in Being Yourself
I fart around my husband. I can make the stupidest jokes. I can be my true self around him because we’ve had the time to get to know each other and be comfortable around each other. Being married in your 20s allows you the room to still have fun and be childish at the same time as being adults. There’s that weird quarter-life balance of fun and responsibility.
My husband knows me better than anyone else, and I’d like to believe I know him better than anyone else, too. And because we’re so young, there’s only so much more time to learn more about him.
Spending More Time with Them
I always have someone to come home to. Sometimes, I don’t relish in this fact as much as I should, but there’s something great about the comfort and security of being married to my best friend so early. I can talk to him about anything. We can spend time together, but we also have the type of relationship where we’re working on me-time, too.
I’ve already had about 8 years with the love of my life and I’m only 25. There’s so much more good to come.