Garrett and I have been together for 8 years today. We’ve been married for 3. I can’t even begin to tell you how much we’ve survived through all these years: life, death, finances, trust, communication, stress… I like to believe all the things we’ve been through in the past suggest a promise for a brighter future.
We are not perfect. It’s something that I’ve started to come to grips with lately. Like many of you know, I am a hopeless romantic who strives for that “movie love.” But that isn’t really a thing. It’s not all rainbows and sunshine. Arguments happen. Feelings get hurt. But, what I do know is that we are a team after all those things. At the end of the day, we try to look at the positives and work on a solution for what is going awry.
From the beginning of our relationship, “our song” was “This House,” by Edison Glass. Back in 2009, it was a song that kept us going through the struggle of me leaving and going off to college (which didn’t last long :P). Our little emo selves listened to that song and sang along with it, thinking about how we were going to make it through me living in another city. How small that problem seems now. We had no clue about the obstacles life would throw in our way in the future. What we went through back then is nothing compared to what we’ve seen in the past 2 years.
The song’s chorus goes, “We have enough. We can handle it. If we don’t make it, I will fall apart.”
The video, quirky and strange, showcases a little cartoon couple trying to build something together, and even after their beautiful creation all comes crashing down, the video ends with them sharing a loving glance at each other and then holding hands. Yeah, our cute little amusement park went up in smoke, but we will survive.
Sometimes, it feels like the world is crashing down on us. But, the whole idea of “we can handle it” is inspiring to me. Yeah, crappy things are going to happen, but it helps to remind ourselves that we can handle anything life throws at us.
So, today, on a very ironic Throwback Thursday, instead of reflecting and dwelling on the past, I’d like to look to the future of what’s to come for our relationship. It sucks to be stuck in the past. I know first hand, because some days I am still stuck in the past and it does nothing but drain my energy and create stress in my own mind. But, I am on a journey to moving forward. We are on the path to starting the first year of the rest of our lives.
Happy Anniversary, babe.