One of the things I love most about my relationship with Garrett is that we are both goal-oriented. We both know what we want to do in life and we’ve talked openly about our career aspirations. And, we both seem to do a pretty good job supporting each other in the process to get there.
Goal Accountability Partner
Despite our lofty goals, Garrett and I are broke right now. We’ve been through a lot in the past couple of years, and right now, we’re in a weird quarter-life crisis part of our lives. We know we’re old enough to make our goals happen. But, with a family and responsibilities to take care of, it’s kind of hard to build a career being a creative.
We both want to create different forms of art, and traditionally, people give you shit for wanting the careers we want. You know, the whole “starving artist” thing? Our goals could make a lot of money… but just not right now. Writing a best selling- novel and a high- quality video game take years of production. We may not see residuals for these things for years. So, who’s going to pay the bills until then?
We focus most of our time on the present. We go to our day jobs, taking what we can from them to apply them to the bigger goal. And, we do small things here and there to better equip ourselves at meeting that goal. What helps is that we talk to each other about our goals. We end up making it a second job to remind one another to actually work toward what we want, even though it’s not earning money (right now.)
Garrett comes home from work on the weekends and asks me if I’ve written anything toward my book. And on his off days, I check in to see if he’s done any programming. Simple reminders like that go a long way on a day you may not feel like doing anything productive.
Talking about Your Goals
In a long term relationship, I believe it’s important to to talk about your goals. Whether these goals are a personal endeavor or a team effort, it helps to have someone on your side, rooting for you and praying for you.
Garrett is a unique breed of person. He’s known what he wanted to do with his life from a very young age. And he’s stuck with that goal. He’s been very faithful to it. I, on the other hand, have been up and down with my goals. They’ve changed a lot, but he’s selflessly been with me, supporting me every step of the way. And I’m so grateful for that.
I like to think of marriage as a team, a partnership. We’re in this together. It’s great to have someone who believes in you and wants you to succeed. This type of support can be found in other places, too. Your parents, your siblings, best friends– the right ones will offer you words of encouragement, constructive criticism, and prayer throughout your journey. Hold on to the ones who love your dreams as much as you do.
Who do you share your dreams with?
Some people, like me, rely on the help of others to make dreams happen. Others wish to be quiet with their goals and keep things to themselves until things are done. How do you handle sharing your dreams?