As our society has grown and evolved, the traditional definition of marriage has changed drastically. With new laws and the world becoming more accepting of different types of families, marriage is no longer just a legal agreement between a man and a woman. (And it’s definitely no longer an exchange for goods and services.) But why the hell do we decide to get married in the first place?
Well, it depends on who you are. Some people believe the purpose of marriage is to enjoy the security and safety associated with having a life partner. Some people like the feeling of—for the lack of a better word—ownership. I belong to you, and you belong to me.
But, as you all may know, not too many Millennials are in agreement with this sentiment. Currently, the median age for a first marriage is 27 for women and 29 for men—much older ages than when people got married in the 60s (around 23). While my Millennial brethren are holding off on marriage, I decided to do it pretty early. At the ripe age of 22, I married my best friend, and I don’t regret a thing.
Here’s what marriage means to me.
What Is Marriage?
Marriage is commitment. It’s telling your best friend in the whole wide world that you’re in it for the long run.
Marriage is spending every day with your best friend (and not getting tired of him or her).
It’s joking about dumb shit that only the two of you understand.
Marriage is being comfortable farting around each other and laughing hysterically about it.
It’s never having to be alone.
It’s having someone to teach you new things and introduce you to new perspectives.
It’s cooking breakfast together on the weekends. It’s eating ice cream for dinner if that’s the type of life you want.
It’s falling asleep together peacefully. And, then again, it’s learning how to sleep through his snores.
Marriage is raising a family that balances each of your personalities and parenting types.
It’s growing and learning more about each other, and then growing some more.
It’s having your own personal cheerleader, pushing you out of your comfort zone and into your life’s purpose.
Marriage, to me, is compromising and being selfless.
It’s spending time together, even if that means watching reruns of The Office over and over again.
Marriage is having someone to vent to, someone who listens—even if you are kinda overreacting.
Marriage is trust.
It’s a partnership. It’s us against the world.
Marriage is feeling at home no matter where you are together.
Marriage is someone to dream with, someone who believes in you.
It’s a support system.
Marriage is a no-judgement zone.
It’s fighting over dumb shit—and some serious shit—and then making up by compromise, communication, and respect.
Do You Want to Get Married?
I know many of you have opinions on this topic. Do you want to get married? Why? And if not, what are your reasons? The thing about marriage is that it is—and should be—a choice. I got married ‘cause I love this one guy, and I don’t ever want to leave his side. You may not want to get married because you’re fiercely independent and love yourself enough on your own. Either way, love is love.
Thanks for reading.